Wednesday, August 3, 2011

It’s Tough To Be A Man



Historically, men have been known to act as muzzles that have prevented women’s liberation and empowerment from happening in full swing. Men have also been adduced as self-proclaimed czars who have taken away women’s privilege as their appanage. In doing so, men have often been read and remarked as mischievous, perverse, and wicked in their willful means. But not all men are same just as all women are different. Reading a man’s motives may sometimes appear tough while at other times his feelings may be as playful as a tot who sprouts in love. For many of us women, the men in our life have been our life’s axis and we have revolved around them in different garbs. They have been the charmers’ on a date night, or have been our lovers, partners, and confidants. They have also been our greatest pals who have taken a charade of impositions on themselves to save us from the grind. But at other times they have also been our grave abusers. In both ‘either/or’ situations of life, men have shown their zing triggered by their testosterone levels. As our loved ones with a midas touch, they have soaked away our troubles and pain in their steadfastness. At other times, however, they have left us stranded and harrowing for help on life’s empty shores. But most of the time they have been just men, adamant or ardent who love to pursue their true blue nature in anything they embrace with their masculine verve. Yes, they are men, a human species who are judged on their virility and gauged for the many roles they play in our lives as fathers, brothers, husbands, or sons.

Right at birth their social conditioning is different than us women. They are gifted with more freedom and a greater degree of choice. They are taught to be courageous and impudent with occasional reliance on expressing their inner emotions. Perhaps it is one reason that men don’t cry much and they also don’t hug always, but when they do they suffice it with sheer wholeness. Their strength and warmth is also their brute force that keeps us women feeling shielded against the unsought swords, lances, and arrows. Not only this, but man’s cognition and their wisdom is the kingdom of their competence and capability that fills up all the shallow holes of our life though sometimes men can go berserk too. This is when they get tangled up in the fine threads of life, such as when draggled in an extra-marital affair, or when dogged by their dear mother if they support their better half, or when they get caught up between a pertinacious wife and a nagging and provoking daughter. Well those are some of the terrible times when our men are clasped in two worlds! For no rhyme or reason, these clasped men are split apart like pieces of a jigsaw puzzle until they use discretion and gumption to fit all the pieces together to make a clear picture. It’s the man’s foresight, maturity, and emotional stability that we women can always count on. When our beloved men use these gifted qualities in real life situations, they score over other men who don’t. Also, it is our men’s love beneath their logic and not their indiscreet acts that inspires us to look up to them. So let’s stand up in ovation for the many men in our lives who cheer us as our fathers, brothers, husbands, and sons. These men do and can make a difference in a woman’s life.

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29 comments:

  1. You described men so accurately and completely. I salute those men who stand by women. And, I hope someone impart wisdom to those men who still think themselves as superior human beings. Very nicely worded article, leaves an impact on reader.

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  2. Nice post Barkha....
    It's gr88 to see a woman explaining things about man differently..

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  3. Gr88 Post Barkha..
    Its nice to see someone describing man differently...

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  4. d moment i saw d pic, i remembered "Face off" d movie

    after all the male bashing articles/posts/reports/features etc we come across, this was refreshing to read :)

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  5. It is nice to read a post appreciating sensible men who respect women. Respecting and appreciating sensible men seems to be a better approach to women empowerment. I have had many men in my life who believed in women's capability and taught me love, self respect and independence. This article reminded me of them and how much I owe them for their love and respect for me.

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  6. So many layers of a man so beautifully threaded in a single post! Wonderful read Barkha :)

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  7. you have an abstarct and very intellectual style of writing Barkha.An interesting and Humane view of Men.

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  8. Thanks Barkha...good to know that we are so much more :)

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  9. Nice take on men. :)

    Just an opinion about the font, you could neglect it- I found it hard to read the text. I believe its the font type and background color, somehow they dont seem work for my eyes. Has anyone told you that or is it just me?

    Sandeep
    http://randrumblings.blogspot.com/2011/08/red-scarf-pencil-2010.html

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  10. Thank you Saru. Yes, wisdom of judgment and action is what makes us all different from each other and this holds true for men too. It’s nice to know that you liked my post.

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  11. Thank you Hemant. Words of appreciation coming from a man sure feels great .

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  12. Thank you Sujatha. Nice to know that this post has a pleasing freshness.

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  13. Thank you Iniyaal. It’s great to know that men in your life taught you to love and to be loved. And as I have written that men in our life do and can make the difference. Hats off to those who do.

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  14. Thank you Arti. Glad to receive your appreciation.

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  15. Your most welcome Sub. You guys definitely mean a lot more to us women.

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  16. Thank you Sandeep. Regrets that you had some trouble while reading the post.

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  17. Thank you Dibakar. I am glad that the post amazed you. Hope in a good way though.

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  18. Hey, hey, that was totally anti-feminist :P Don't you know that men are the bane of our lives and that women are complete by themselves? Who needs brutish men?

    Seriously, this was so different from all the anti-male crusade of a million blogs. There are tarred men but so are there blemished women. To deny either would be stupid and dangerous.

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  19. @Zephyr,
    Hey, I don’t mean to deprecate the endeavor of the feminist(s), but I would always stand up for what is right. I am glad that you liked the post and that this blog was different than million others. Thank you for your comment.

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  20. Nice post for reading
    Its nice to see someone describing man differently...

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